Why Some Parents Choose to Use a Dummy
There’s often a lot of debate around using a dummy (pacifier) in infancy. Some parents rely on them from day one, while others prefer to avoid them altogether. In reality, there’s no single right approach. What matters most is how the dummy is used and whether it supports your baby’s sleep and wellbeing.
Dummy use and safer sleep guidance
Research referenced by organisations such as The Lullaby Trust suggests that offering a dummy at sleep times during the first six months may help reduce the risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS).This is one reason many families choose to introduce a dummy in the early months of life.
Why parents use dummies in the newborn stage
In the early weeks, babies have a strong natural sucking reflex. A dummy can help meet this need and provide comfort and regulation.
For many families, a dummy can:
- Help settle a fussy or unsettled baby
- Support longer stretches of sleep
- Provide a soothing tool during naps and bedtime
- Give parents short breaks during intense newborn periods
In practical terms, it can be a helpful short-term sleep aid while routines are still developing.
Can a dummy cause sleep problems?
One of the most common questions parents ask is:
“When should we take the dummy away?”
There isn’t a universal answer. Every baby is different. However, sleep challenges can emerge when a dummy shifts from being a comfort tool to a sleep association or sleep prop.
A dummy becomes a potential sleep problem when:
- A baby relies on it to fall asleep
- They cannot self-settle without it
- They wake frequently needing it replaced overnight
At this point, the dummy may be influencing sleep more than supporting it.
How dummies can affect sleep cycles
Babies naturally move through short sleep cycles and briefly stir between them. This is a normal part of infant sleep development.
However, if a baby falls asleep with a dummy and it falls out during the night:
- They may partially wake between sleep cycles.
- They may struggle to resettle without the dummy
- They may fully wake and cry for parental help
Over time, this can lead to repeated night waking, not because the baby isn’t tired but because the dummy has become part of the sleep routine.
While some babies eventually learn to replace the dummy themselves, many continue to rely on external help once the association is strong.
Why Around Six Months Is a Turning Point
Around six months, sleep patterns become more structured and adult-like, with more defined sleep cycles. This is often when dummy use starts to feel more noticeable at night.
According to the National Health Service (NHS), reducing or stopping dummy use around this stage may support:
Speech and language development– Less time with a dummy in the mouth allows more opportunity for babbling and early communication skills.
Dental health-Prolonged dummy use may increase the risk of dental alignment issues later in childhood.
Reduced risk of ear infections-Frequent sucking can open the Eustachian tube (which connects the nose and middle ear), potentially increasing the chance of bacteria entering the middle ear.
It Often Feels Harder Than It Is
The idea of this can feel really daunting for parents. I completely understand that. It often brings up worries about disrupted sleep and lots of tears. But honestly, from what I’ve seen over the years, the reality is usually much smoother than the build-up in our heads.
That said, this decision has to feel right for your family. There’s no strict deadline, and it’s absolutely okay to keep the dummy for longer if that works for you. The most important thing is that everyone involved feels comfortable with the plan. Consistency is key, and little ones cope so much better when everyone is one same page.
How Do You Remove the Dummy?
Giving up the dummy can feel like a big step, for both you and your little one! The good news is, with a bit of preparation and consistency, it can be a smooth transition.
1. Expect a short adjustment period
Be prepared for 2–3 days that might feel a little tricky. Remember, all your child’s basic needs are still being met, the only thing changing is the dummy. It’s the change itself that feels hard. Hold onto the thought that very soon, everyone will be enjoying more peaceful nights of sleep!
2. Offer a comforter alternative
If your little one is over 12 months, try introducing a comforter as a substitute. A cuddly toy or special blanket can be a lovely trade-off and something they can snuggle instead.
3. Choose the right approach for their age
For children under 18 months, a “cold turkey” approach often works well. At this age, they tend to adapt quickly. Older toddlers, however, may benefit from a more gradual approach, giving them time to adjust to the change.
4. Give plenty of notice
Toddlers love knowing what’s going to happen. Let them know in advance that the dummy will be going away soon. When they feel prepared, there are fewer surprises and fewer protests. Most importantly, stay consistent. Mixed messages or changing boundaries can be confusing. Once you’ve decided, stick with it.
5. Make it a ritual
Turning it into a little event can work wonders! You might introduce the “dummy fairy” or create a “magic dummy box” where the dummies are left overnight. A bit of imagination and creativity can make the process feel exciting rather than upsetting. I’ve used this myself, and it worked surprisingly quickly!
6. Phase it out gradually (if needed)
Start by removing the dummy during the day. For example, during playtime. Once that feels settled, move on to naps, and finally bedtime.
You Don’t Have to Do It Alone
Whichever approach you choose, the most important thing is to stay consistent and calm. Your little one will take their cues from you and when you respond with confidence and reassurance, it helps them feel safe and secure during the transition.
If you’re starting to feel that the dummy is causing more disruption than comfort when it comes to your little one’s sleep, you don’t have to navigate it alone. I’m here to support you. Feel free to book in for a free, no-obligation call. We can chat things through and find a plan that feels right for you and your little one.
